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Self-Esteem Issues

Every time I see or hear a perfectly normal looking girl complain that she’s ugly or that she’s fat, it seriously pisses me off.

WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM?

Are you so incredibly shallow that all you can fuss about is how many inches your ridiculously average thighs and arms have gained?

I suppose I can try to empathize with girls who are genuinely unpleasant looking or obese girls crying over their fate…

But when I see NORMAL, average girls whining to viewers on a PUBLIC PLATFORM when there’s absolutely nothing wrong with them (besides zero self-esteem) it pisses me off because it’s such an insult to people with actual eating disorders or people who are actually struggling to deal with unhealthy weights. (no matter thin or fat)

Or people born with deformities!!!

How many people dealing with self-esteem issues are going to look at their blogs and feel even worse about themselves?

It’s like they look up to you because they think you’re smart / pretty / hot and whatever, and then you crush not only your self-esteem but theirs as well when you talk about how “fugly” you look.

Stop bitching about your insignificant non-existent problems and maybe start wondering about more pressing issues :

Like finding a cure to cancer, or you know, ask yourself… “Why do I have such shitty self-esteem and feel so awful about myself?!”

I know of one too many girls that like to bitch endlessly about how they regrettably ate so much when they’re supposedly on a “strict diet” and then start to freak out over their weight gain…

Obviously you do NOT think you’re fugly, you are just an attention-seeking hoe.

Who will believe you every time you call yourself “ugly” or “fat”, when you have big ass vain pictures of yourself plastered all over your website?!?

NOTHING says narcissism like multiple similar pictures of yourself pulling act chio faces at the camera.

Real people with real image problems don’t do that sort of thing, because they are honestly embarrassed about the situation.

Those who post vain pics of themselves with a caption along the lines of something like “I am so ugly / fat!!!” are just fishing for compliments and it’s sickening, because they expect readers to comfort them and go like,

“No, you are so pretty and sexy and don’t need to lose weight / get surgery!”

So they can feel better about themselves all over again. Pui!!!!

If you think you are so damn ugly, why don’t you just get plastic surgery already, or brush up on your make up skills!

Or if you’re so convinced that you’re FAT (which you’re probably not) then why don’t you get off your lazy ass and start exercising instead of boozing and binging away and then come back home to bitch on your blog or to your friends again.

I know this post sounds rather angsty but I know SO MANY PEOPLE who just whine and whine and whine and whine and whine and whine about their problems but never even bother to fix them!!!!

Your life will still be shitty at the end of the day anyway.

It’s like, “Oh, I’m broke….. But I’m still partying every other night, blowing money on cab fares and alcohol or buying ciggys to get lung cancer or shopping because I can’t resist temptation”

Yes, shut the fuck up pls!!!

You’re not broke, or fat, or any of the above – you are just SELF-DESTRUCTIVE.

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To all the girls suffering from self-esteem problems by feeling unnecessarily fat or ugly:

Stop comparing yourself to crazily beautiful girls. The truth is, some people just GOT IT… while others don’t.

One way I stopped feeling bad about myself was to stop reading magazines that had so many photoshopped images of the “ideal look”.

I know it’s in our nature to oggle at like supermodels once in awhile and go like, “Omg, I wish I had big eyes / tits like her!!”

But honestly? These models are PAID to look the way they are. It’s how they make a living. Their looks are their life.

Chances are, they probably maintain a very strict diet (no yummy junk food or anything), work out religiously in gym everyday, spend hours on hair and make up day in and day out… it’s extremely hard work.

Many even go under the knife to fix up their entire face or get fake boobies just to become more appealing!!!!

Unless you’re willing to go through all of that to look as gorgeous as them…

I’ll put it simply – You don’t have the rights to compare yourself to them.

When is it going to get into your heads that you’ll NEVER be pretty enough unless you’re pretty enough for you?

Even gorgeous models suffer from self-esteem issues, despite how gorgeous they look. Why? Because they never felt good enough!!!! There was always something they weren’t satisfied with.

Or you know, already gorgeous models would compare themselves to EVEN MORE GORGEOUS MODELS.

There will always be somebody better, hotter, smarter, richer, and luckier.

Why do you think so many models are suffering (or have died) from anorexia? Do you really want to become one of them?


Self-esteem is SO IMPORTANT,
especially to a girl because we happen to be a lot more sensitive (especially about our looks)… and all it takes is one degrading comment to shatter it all.

Trust me, I know what it’s like to feel incredibly insecure. Well I’ve grown out of feeling insecure now, but I definitely remember the days when I was harping over every apparent imperfection I had.

Now that I’m more confident of myself, it’s helped me become more optimistic and view my life in an entirely new way.

Shitty self-esteem can lead to so many problems in your life! Take relationship problems for example.

I know for a fact that guys hate it when girls always ask, “Does my ass look huge in this?” (I don’t ever ask this coz my ass is huge in anything I wear)

Or “Do I look fat in this dress”?!

He’s your boyfriend!!!! What is he going to say, even if you DID look horrid? If you ask him this question too often, it’s only a matter of time before he becomes uncomfortable and annoyed.

Self-confidence is sexy.

Normal guys prefer girls with a bit of meat on them, and they would definitely want somebody who’s not scared to death of a cheeseburger.

I’ve had some friends tell me before, “I’m so glad you’re not like those other girls who NEVER eat whenever we go out! Usually they would just order something pathetic, like a salad. Dunno what’s wrong with them…”

Low self-esteem can also cause you problems like lack of intimacy in your relationship, because you feel too unattractive to get it on and you’re always not in the mood.

Work, and relationship with friends can also become affected.

Just feeling like you’re not good enough to handle a job will already affect your performance for it. It’s a sub-conscious thing…

Being jealous of seemingly “hotter” and “better” friends can also hurt your relationships with them!

A little goes a long way when it comes to self-confidence…

If you feel good about yourself, you WILL achieve better.

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I received this question on my formspring 3 days ago:

“My bf told me that I should work out & be sexy for him. coz skinny girls are prettier. Jess, I am not fat. What should I do? I am so depressed.”


Ugh!!!!!!!

It reminds me of my stupid ex-boyfriend who was always telling me to go on a diet and that I’m too big sized. Yes, I may be tall and meaty, but it doesn’t change the fact that he was MIDGET-sized and so damn skinny!!!


Why should I try to make up for HIS imperfections?

And so I didn’t.

Eventually I dumped his sorry ass.. (I probably repeat this too often, but I’m particularly proud of breaking free)

Some times I feel like guys treat their girlfriends like trophies. Like, “We’re going out to a function with my family / friends tonight, so you’d better dress up nicely for me!”

Why, cuz if I look a little less than pretty, you’d feel embarrassed to be with me?

FUCK THAT SHIT!

If I EVER decide to dress up and look good, it will be for me, myself and I – nobody else. Why should I have to look pretty for you?

You should be proud of your girlfriends at all times – doesn’t matter if she’s in sweats or in a glamorous dress.

He got into a relationship with you, and so he should accept you for exactly who you are.

“Not skinny enough” is NOT a reason to tell your girlfriend that she’s not good enough and has to change herself!!!

If he wants a “skinny pretty girl” then by all means, he should go ahead and find someone else who’s skinny enough for him, why the hell is he trying to change you to suit his preferences?!

It’s like walking into McDonalds and demanding to be served a steak.

No fucking steaks here, if you don’t like Big Macs then get the fuck out!!!!!!

I hate it when guys put their girl friends down and make them feel horrid about themselves.

If anything, a girl should receive utmost support from her boyfriend because if he doesn’t think she’s beautiful.. she’ll feel like nobody else does either.

And you know what else I’ve noticed?

The girl is ALWAYS hotter than the guy in most relationships!!! WTF. And the stupid guy still dares to ask her to “be hotter”

To the person who left me that formspring comment:

Good on ya for knowing that you’re not fat and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.

Knowing that the problem lies with HIM, and not you, is half the battle won already.

Now, what you really need to do is to tell that guy to shut up or get the hell out of your life. Yes, you may be in a relationship and everything, but a guy like that is not worth keeping.

We all deserve a guy who will look her in the eyes and tells her just how beautiful she really is.


Girls, don’t ever let your boyfriend put you down!!!!

Never let a man think that he’s better than you because he will step all over you eventually, no matter how good natured he is. It’s just a male dominance thing.

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I’m sure a lot of you know exactly what I am talking about.

Maybe you are not suffering from self-esteem issues, but everyone knows SOMEBODY they care about who is.

It doesn’t have to be just about looks – it could be not being “good enough” for their partners, their parents, their friends, at work or just not feeling good enough about themselves in general.

The next time someone I give a shit about talks to me about their self-destructive thoughts or behaviour, I’ll be sure to give them one hell of a wake up call.

And because a large amount of my blog readers are young adults who are mostly female, I’ll repeat this again…

As long as your weight is acceptable and normal (calculate your BMI) there is nothing wrong with you.

And beauty is subjective…

The only thing wrong with you is your self-obsession and silly chase after perfection, when it’s not even necessary.

There is the normal kind of need for improvement in life… take that, add compulsive obsessive behaviour and you get unnecessarily shitty self-esteem.

I know that at this day and age, it’s hard to feel like you’re ever good enough. The media is always feeding us crazy images of the ideal looks, status and in general… the idea life.

In whatever we do, competition is always crazy high and people who don’t care about you won’t hesitate to bring you down.

Life seems to kick us in the nuts all the time when we’re already down….

And the list goes on.

But that’s no reason to stop treating yourself right. (and it’s an even sillier reason to burden the people who care about you with!!!)

How does a person start feeling good about themselves?

It’s very simple - Instead of focusing on your flaws, embrace your attributes.

Everyone is good at something. We just gotta find out what that is..

Do something about it before it consumes you.

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Every girl DESERVES to feel beautiful, no matter how “flawed” she is.

All she needs is somebody to believe in that, before she will.

xoxo,
Jess

Procrastinating

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I’m sitting in my room, all alone, it’s past midnight and I find myself thinking about all the things I could do with my life.

As I do, EVERY SINGLE NIGHT.

I don’t wanna be one of those people who looks back on their life and wonder where did all the time ago. Life is too short to be sitting around on my ass all day

xoxo,
Jess

Top formspring questions

Okie, as you all know, I’ve been quite busy with my Formspring recently and I really like how I can interact with my readers all plus clear up whatever random questions you’ve ever had and just entertain each other for a bit!

So I decided to compile a list of the funniest / most popular / my favourite questions for the benefit of everyone who can’t bring themselves to scroll through 500+ questions…. here goes!

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Q: What defines a best friend? What are the requirements to be a good best friend? How many hours a week does it entail? A best friend is not defined by how many times they talk on the phone, or how many hours they hang out.

A: A best friend is somebody who will always be there for you, when you least expect it, and of course when you do expect it. It’s not counted by how many hours you spend together. I’ve only spent a few days in total with some of my very good friends and we still keep in constant contact. The first time we met each other, it was as if we’d spent a lot of time together before and it’s been over a year since I saw her, but every time I talk to her it still feels like just yesterday we were hanging out on the beach and talking about boys and having breakfast at 8am in the morning (which I never ever have usually!) Best friends are no-nonsense kind of people, won’t get jealous of your success and instead, feel happy and wish the best for you. They won’t judge. A best friend can be defined in so many ways. But they are so hard to find. Many people think they have best friends, until they turn around and stab them in the back or until they realize that when they need their BFFs most, no “best friend” was there for them.

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Q: how do you know if a guy likes you if he doesnt admit it outwardly? any signs?
A: Typically, he would be really nice to you or shy / coy when you flirt with him… He’d be there for you when you need him, more than a normal friend would, I think. You could ask one of his friends! Guys usually let it slip because they think they’re doing their bro a favour, y’know?

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Q: Are you still a virgin? Sorry, if it is too sensitive

A: Oh no it’s not sensitive at all. I’ll tell you if you’ll tell me, and send me your blog link together with your identity details and pictures as well, to be fair. Thanks!

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Q: how to boast self esteem?

A: By learning how to spell!!!! *Boost self esteem. Lol besides that, being smarter than other people really is the best way to boost your self-esteem. It’s like, no matter what other people say, you know you’re better than them, no? Or improve on your looks / figure if you’re self conscious about image. Best way is to remind yourself that you’re beautiful, or find somebody who believes you are.

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Q: How would you describe your style?

A: Random. I don’t follow trends, I just wear whatever I feel like. Recently I have an obsession with vintage looks and red lipstick

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Q: woah you met all yr bfs from games!! haha interesting. i dont seem to meet any guy or friends in games. how do you do that babe? ;D

A: I don’t know, wtf, they just sort of happened, you don’t plan these things!!! I met them in the strangest ways. I guess I like guys from online because I know for sure that they truly like me for who I am. Not because of my looks, money, status or anything – because they can’t tell any of that from talking to you online! Holding in depth conversations is something EXTREMELY important with my boyfriends. James was an exception though. He never had much depth to him. Anyway nothing wrong with having bfs from real life as well, you can judge them better!

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Q: how do you make the bf stay loyal to you? (:

A: You can’t. If the person wants to stay faithful to you, he will. Otherwise no matter how fucking hard you try, once a cheater always a cheater… Valuable lesson learned, courtesy of the ex-boyfriend

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Q: do you think youre spoilt?

A: In some ways, yes. I’m super spoilt by my mum and my bf because they dote on me like I’m the princess of the world. I am always their number 1

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Q: you said you’ve stopped taking allowance from your parents then where do you get your money from? you seem rich…

A: I make money from advertorials??? Isn’t it obvious? And I “seem” rich – seem is the key word!!!

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Q: Have you ever considered suicide?

A: When I was a lot younger, I thought about it… Was a kid and didn’t know how to deal with things. But now I just think life’s too short and I treasure ever moment!

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Q: Do you believe in ghosts?

A: I can’t decide!!! Bah. I get really freaked out by the idea, but I can’t prove they exist. I don’t want to know if they really exist anyway, so I’d rather not think about it

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Q: hello jess! :) it seems that many of your readers want to be friends with you. why don’t you organise some sort of event to interact with your readers? like maybe an online competition and the winner will get a makeover from you or smth. sounds fun!

A: Hahaha so many people have asked that!!! The thing is, there are always readers wanting to be friends and they say that online but I think if I actually organize, nobody will show up lor. What do you think? If there’s a good enough response, I’ll organize a get together and it could be so fun :)

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Q: Which part of your body are you not satisfied with?

A: Oh I’m not exactly satisfied with everything. I mean, for every part of my body I can always find something to improve on, or something that could look nicer if I did this, or that. But that doesn’t mean I’m not comfortable with my body. I am. I like how I look, but I also know there can be many improvements. Right now I don’t think I need to change anything cuz I feel comfortable and happy like this. Even though it’s definitely not the best, but it’s good enough for me. I strive for perfection in certain areas in my life, but physical appearance is just not one of them.

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Q: name your most important pet peeve then. the one everyone should take note of. LOL.


A: Hahaha ok. I hate it when people try to make others suffer for their own shortcomings. It’s like, when I talk about spending money, there will be people saying I am trying to show off or that I am wasting money, etc. I make my own money, so I can spend my own money. And if I can make that sort of money at my age, then yes, I have the right to show off. So what?!? Like when people say flowers are expensive and are a waste of money. Flowers make girls happy, and girls who say flowers are a waste of money just didn’t get enough. As for the boys, they don’t make enough money to spend it on flowers. Basically, I hate it when other people try to preach about their own ways. I live my life my way, and I really don’t give a shit if you disagree with me. I’m not that interested in hearing other peoples opinions.

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Q: What do you call Sam?

A: Darling, Baby, Pumpkin, Sweetie, Cupcake, Idiot, Oi.

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Q: what is one thing you can do that others can’t?

A: I can bend my fingers super far back and roll my tongue into really weird shapes!

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Q: Hi Jessica. I’ve always wanted to ask this: even if your readers read your blog all the way from the beginning, does that mean they understand you? how many percent of your life do you blog? how can we know the real you?

A: No, even if they read every single post, they still might not understand me. The easiest way to understand someone is to put yourself in their position and try not to judge. I blog maybe 20% of my life? The rest is a big puzzle that I have to sort out myself, not meant for public viewing. How can you know the real me? That’s up to you to decide. Even if you think you know me, you probably don’t.

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Q: Do you burp, fart or do any unglam actions in front of people?
A: Hahahaha I do lots of unglam shit in front of my bf, but no, not in front of anyone else. Don’t wanna terrorize them too much…

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Q: What is the thing that you want to say most to your dad? from the bottom of your heart.

A: I would say that I’m really sorry things couldn’t work out.

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Q: Are you a screamer or a moaner in bed?

A: That’s one of those things commoners like you are not privileged enough to know

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Q: What would your dream job look like?

A: Standing on the tip of a very large dolphin that’s black and white.

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Q: What’s the kindest thing someone has ever done for you?

A: Hmm, my high school teacher was really kind to me. He went out of his way and really changed my life. Without his patience, I would have probably been a mess, or got expelled, or something. He’s my fav teacher ever, and he’s helped me through really tough times, and refrained from ever judging me even though I got up to a lot of mischief back then. I attended his wedding a few months ago :’) Time sure does fly.

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Q: Where would you like to spend your retirement?

A: Somewhere near enough to the city, but surrounded by nature as well. Where there is a waterfront, preferably with killer whales / dolphins… Near a beach, or on a beach!!!! Where I can wake up and hear either children laughing or birds singing everyday :) Where the weather isn’t death like in Singapore. Maybe Canada? Or Alaska!!! Hahaha I don’t know

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Q: Some of your favourite dishes?

A: Lol I like steaks, burgers, I really really like creamy and butter mash potato.. I love dishes that are covered with lots of sauce and gravy, or something that’s starchy, like pasta or risotto. I like too many things la.

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Q: 5 things (not including people, inanimate objects please!) that you can’t live without?


A: I can’t live without having something to look forward to, be it in the next year, or month, or tomorrow. Life would be meaningless then. I can’t live without knowing that I have tried my best in things that I really want to set out to achieve. Everyday, I am slowly working towards a new goal, no matter how seeming insignificant or unattainable. I can’t live without having a piece of me on a public platform, somewhere. Be it a private blog, a public blog, twitter, or whatever… I have this irrational fear of being completely gone when I die or disappear. I don’t want to feel like I’ve never existed. I can’t live without the freedom of doing the things I want, anytime, anywhere. Freedom of speech, freedom of choice and action plays a huge role in my life. And I’ll leave the last one open.. because I’m hoping I will always find new meaning and things I am convinced is worth living for.

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Q: Would you rather spend your life with someone whom you barely have feelings for or get together with the one person you love the most, only to have your heart broken?


A: I would rather love and have lost than to have not loved at all. When you have your heart broken, you can comfort yourself by knowing that you have at least tried, and things didn’t work out. I would rather learn from my mistakes, than spend my entire life wondering “What If?”

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Q: What is the most rewarding experience you have had and what made it so?

A: Well, creating this blog is one of the best decisions I have ever made. At the start, I was a nobody. I was just another girl trying to identify herself and resorted to blogging as a platform to express herself and to cure boredom. And then a whirlwind came and things got a little out of hand, all of a sudden I had a readership base and people started to know my name. I don’t even know how to arrived on my blog. I still remember when I only had less than a hundred readers daily. Till this day, I wonder where the bulk of my readers came from. Xiaxue inspired me to blog because she made blogging seem so fun, but never did I imagine I would be so successful at it. True, I’m a small fry in the blogosphere but for somebody my age, I think I have done well. I have written advertisements for big companies, I have made friends with people I admire and respect, I have learned many many many lessons and it opened my eye up to the big world out there. I love blogging, because it allows me to be myself, but at the same time allowing me to reap benefits from it. I mean, how many can say they make money by just being themselves? So many opportunities opened up, and it all spawned from one idea. I don’t have to be the top blogger – that place is rightfully Xiaxue’s. But I am very pleased with my blog, because I always have readers that are so damn sweet and honestly, kind strangers give me encouragement more than they think because it reminds me the world may not be as fucked up as I think. I may have caused some trouble in the past, but I was just a 14 year old kid. Through blogging, I have also let my family know that I am strong and independent. My mother really respects my blog and what it stands for, and I love how she turned from disapproving, forbidding and skeptical to full on encouraging and supportive. I could go on forever, but you know what I mean :) Thank you to all my readers who made this possible. I have made some sacrifices to maintain this blog, such as losing a few friends, but I wouldn’t have it any way else. This blog has defined who I am, and I love every moment of it.

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Q: are you racist?

A: I’m not racist, but I consider myself to be a realist. I have indian and malay friends, and I won’t hate or judge somebody solely because of their race. But at the same time, I will not deny cold hard facts because it’s just too hard to ignore. I witnessed it first-hand while in America – too many black people are either rude, scary or dangerous. Of course you’ll meet the rich, sophisticated and kind ones, as you do with every race, but let’s keep it real and acknowledge that some things cannot be changed. I’ll be frank and admit that I cannot stand the kind of smell a lot of indians have, and sometimes I laugh at their accent because it sounds funny. But does that make me a racist? No. I just don’t like the smell and their accent makes me giggle, but I do love their food and I won’t hesitate to be friends with somebody nice who happens to be indian / malay or any other race people might be especially biased against. I even make fun of my own race from time to time. People need to take life less seriously. The more uptight people get about racial issues, the more apparent our differences will be.

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Q: Do u think u are crazy?

A: Sometimes, yes. Everybody needs a little bit of crazy to keep them sane. But ultimately, I find myself to be much more sane than everyone else on the whole.

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Q: please give some advice for ugly people!

A: How ugly are we talking about? If like, warts growing on your face, droopy unsymmetrical eyes and a mouth that doesn’t close properly… A bit hard to help. But most people are actually not that ugly la. They either dunno how to dress up / make up, or dress up in such a way that makes them even uglier. Sometimes, you just need to know what looks good on you. I think people ought to realize that even supermodels look like shit heads without dressing up and make up.

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Q: how to have many friends?

A: To be the sort of person who seems to have a thousand friends, you must be willing to please, and to accept. If you cannot stand peoples bullshit and snap easily, chances are, like me, you will not have many friends. For people to like you, you must appear approachable. Preferably not loudmouthed or opinionated. Preferably not a lot better than them too, because people tend to get inferiority issues easily. And then you must accept. You cannot be the kind of person who thinks everybody else is an idiot, because you will find their nonsense hard to swallow. You must realize that friends can be extremely inconvenient, superficial things. The list goes on…

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Q: What are some of your favourite haunts in SG?

A: No place leh. SG is fucking boring. I like my own room the best because it is air-conditioned 99% of the time, has plenty of soft toys for me to hug and there’s fast internet and all that shit. Plus my room smells nice and I have the most comfy bed ever!!! I really don’t leave my house often.

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Q: What is Sam’s job? Why he can fly to meet you so often?

A: He works as a medical scientist. The benefits of being an Australian, I suppose.. They really respect your personal life

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Q: will you marry sam?

A: I will only start thinking about this question when presented with a big fat diamond ring, thanks

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Q: What is one thing you MUST do before you die?

A: I MUST SWIM WITH KILLER WHALES WTF I always have dreams night after night about being in the water with them.

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Q: What is ur BRA SIZE.

A: The size of your head.

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Q: How did you get your awesome flawless skin? Tell us your daily skincare regime!

A: I don’t have a skin care regime!! I know almost every girl has one, but I’m super lazy and all I can manage everyday is to cleanse it daily and that’s it. In the past, I used to put on masks and creams but I stopped that shit long ago… That was when I was slimmer and obviously cared more about my looks much more.

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Q: how do u earn money from ur blog?

A: I earn from sponsors and advertorial clients who pay me money or shower me with gifts to advertise their products and services on my blog. If you want to start earning, gain publicity before expecting sponsors. By that I mean make sure you are either really witty or really hot, because that’s the best way to become famous overnight. Preferably the latter. Or, if you’re not extremely hot, you could, you know, flash your boobs.

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Okie, that’s the end of some of my favourites or the really commonly asked ones!!
Hope it was relatively entertaining or informative ;)

Gonna be home-DIY coloring my hair tomorrow, so exiciting!!! May do a make up tutorial if I have the time as well. It’s time for sleeeeeeeeeeep now!

I love Sundays, cuz I get to sleep in with my boyfriend and have him right there when I wake up ♥

xoxo,
Jess

The Spinning Woman!

Reading all the comments for my previous post was very heartwarming :’)

I am really glad to know that people can find my post easy to relate to. There is no need to thank me, others gave me plentiful good advice in the past but I ignored most… I’m hoping my post could have reached out to at least some of you out there.

Anyway, today’s a new topic and it’s far from being emo!

Because I’m geeky like that, today I am going to blog about an Optical Illusion!!!

It fascinates me to no end and I go like, “ooOOooh! Aahhhh..” everytime I see it, so I thought I’d share with you guys this gem I found over the internet!

This is a really popular one that I’m sure at least some of you have seen. It’s not really an optical illusion per se, but it’s extremely entertaining nonetheless.

Known as the “spinning woman”, this silhouette looks like just any other dancing figure…

But the question is, can you make her dance for you?

According to studies, if at first glance you see the woman spinning clockwise, then you use the left side of your brain more and vice versa, if you see her spinning anti-clockwise, you are using the right side of your brain.

If you really want to, you can CONTROL the movements of this dancer, solely by exerting enough control over your brain.

Apparently, most people would see her spinning anti-clockwise but I saw her spinning clockwise at first! You can google the difference between people who use their left / right brain to find out what kind of person you are.

At first, this woman never changed direction for me at all, and I got frustrated knowing that others can while starting to doubt it – could be some lame Internet scam.

But after 40 minutes, and after much concentration plus a substantial amount of patience and faith, I can change her direction every few seconds at will now and it’s so cool because I’m telling my brain what to do, and not having my body take total control over me!

The brain sees what it wants to believe.. It all depends on how much you want to believe it.


Try it for yourself!!!!

Tried, but still can’t change her movements by yourself? Here’s a few neat tricks to share with you guys, after wasting 1 hour + on my life staring at the above illusion, I am now a spinning woman illusion master!!!

Easy ways I’ve discovered to change her direction:

1) First off, you have to believe that this woman CAN and WILL change direction for you.
Like I said, the brain sees what it wants to believe. If you’re thinking that this is a rigged picture – it’s not. Get your bf/ gf / family to stand beside you and ask them if they see the woman spinning anti-clockwise or clockwise – high chances are, your answers will be different.

Frustration gets you nowhere… To be able to fool the brain and manipulate your own vision, you have to be open to the possibility otherwise it’s not going to work. One side of your brain cannot be too dominant!

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2) Start off by looking at fancy and vibrant pictures / photographs that are full of life, and once you’ve absorbed that, look back at the spinning woman.

Then, read a confusing chunk of text about anything – read your history textbook, google “What are nuclear weapons made of” - anything that’s foreign and confusing!

Logic and imagination is handled by two different parts of your brain. I looked at a picture of me and Sam on holiday then I started to read a chunk of text – amazingly enough, the moment I started to change my focus on the two different subjects, from the corner of my eye I could see the woman change her direction!!!

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4) Another easy peasy way would be to stare at the upper half of the woman’s body for about 30 seconds.

Just focus on the direction that she is spinning, then change your focus onto her lower half of the body. The shadow of her spinning feet would trick your brain, and she should change direction for you. Alternatively, you can scroll my blog blog so that all you can see is the the top part of her head. Then, slowly scroll down further to reveal the rest of the image.

Take note of which direction she’s spinning, then repeat the same experiment again, this time starting from the bottom and ONLY revealing the shadow of her feet! You must not be able to see her body. Slowly scroll upwards to reveal the rest and you should find that the direction has changed,

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5) Once you’ve mastered the above steps and have started to properly freak out, it is time for the ultimate test.

Instead of resorting to additional materials for help, don’t look at pictures, don’t read confusing text and don’t look at her shadow.

Cover the tell-tale shadow, then simply start to focus on the contours of her body. You will realize that her body is designed in a way that at a certain angle, it is easy to picture her spinning in the opposite direction while still in the same position!

Because she is merely a 2d-silhouette, it’s hard for the brain to picture depth and shadows etc, so reality is easily changed.

With enough willpower, you can focus on imagining her changing direction and with enough time and mastery, you should be able to manipulate her movements every few seconds, whenever you’d like to!

Voila!!!!

Now you have your very own dancing ballerina, choreographed to the thoughts of your brain.
Fascinating or what?!? I don’t think I’d ever get bored of it.

Oh, and one more thing! If you find this all hard to believe, get somebody to record you and the image of the spinning woman for about 1 minute.

Whenever you see her change direction, shout out “Changed direction!” and then replay your footage.

You’d realize that she never changes direction at fixed intervals. You may have shouted “changed direction”, but what was caught on footage shows that she was still spinning the same way along…

Call me a nerd, but I’m so easily fascinated by how the brain works!!!


…So tell me, do you have power over your own body?

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Okie, back to my own life, enough attention for spinning woman already.

Went to pick Sam up from the airport last night, and decided to glam it up a little to surprise him!

Usually I’m just in T-shirt and shorts and I look like death, cuz his flights always come in at 12am +.

Good hair days are always a fabulous excuse to post huge ass vain pictures of yourself! I love how my hair looks in this picture :>

But I just removed my hair extensions just now, cuz I’m fickle like that!!!! Only had it on for a month plus or two.

If you want hair extensions like mine, go to my sidebar on the left and there’s a banner for Milly’s that you can find out more details on ^.^ Or just click here!

Can’t wait for my upcoming hair sponsor.. So needing a new cut and a new dye job, roar! But since it’s going to be sponsored, I’m trying to be patient and wait for a week + instead of spending the money myself now.

Okily dokily, back to doing my advertorial. Byee!!!

Enjoy the rest of your weekend people. Mine’s gonna be fab cuz I’m gonna be with Sam HEHEHE!

xoxo,
Jess

Only almost here

The past 2 nights have been the worst I’ve felt in a long time.

I used to say crying every once in awhile actually feels kinda good cuz it makes me feel alive… but I realized it’s when you can’t stop crying that you feel the most helpless.

I’m losing my patience with Sam, I’m becoming more confused and I’m falling out of place…

Perhaps being in a long-distance relationship has begun to take its toll on us. We’re a lucky couple, but it takes a lot to pretend that it’s not a tough relationship to maintain.

It’s hard when the person your life revolves around isn’t there with you all the time – he only drops by once every month. Despite the fact that once a month is considered pretty good for long-distance couples, sometimes I wonder if it’s good enough for me.

I’m not the sort of girl who needs to cling into her boyfriend every single day, but the nights do get stupidly lonely and just knowing that he’s a 8 hour plane flight away just makes it even worse.

I think being on Skype with each other every night was also a bad decision. It made me feel like he was sort of there with me every night… but in essence, not really.

With time, it began to feel like his “presence” didn’t even matter – because whether he was there or not, I felt lonely anyway.

I know I’ve said that he’s the only one who understands me, but sometimes even that special person has no idea what to say or what to do to make you feel better. I don’t know how to feel right now, I feel almost guilty for feeling the way I do because I know he loves me.

I know he’s such a sweetie, I know he tries but god damn it, is it really a crime to tell somebody you love that their best just isn’t enough anymore?

I’m sorry for the hurtful things I’ve said, I just feel that if I don’t put it in your face, you’ll never get it. I hate it when people don’t take me seriously.

They say action speaks louder than words, but I’m the sort of person who will remember every single word of every single conversation and I will always remember how your words made me feel.

I can try to pretend to forget mistakes, but no, they will be forever etched in my mind. I can forgive, but I never forget. And it’s fucked up, because I’ve been this way ever since I’ve been cheated by my ex-boyfriend again and again.

I know it’s not your fault I had a bad experience with my ex-boyfriend and that I’m in a new relationship – but you don’t know that who I am today is directly related to who I was. Behind every strong girl is an asshole who made her that way.

It was my first relationship, and I gave it my all like every first love would but it all came crashing down me. It’s so hard to trust someone fully with all your heart again.

But I trusted you. I really did. You just disappointed me.

Time and time again…

You may think it’s just a simple mistake – but to me, it’s a mistake that I’ve been through and over with a thousand times, a mistake that I shouldn’t have to experience again. I warned you. I told you never to.

You’re so different now, like an empty shell. Where has the boy I fell in love with gone? I’ll probably never know.

I’m tired of and refuse to take bullshit from people, even my boyfriend. I expect the same out of people that I can expect out of myself, but I’m starting to realize perhaps not everybody seeks perfection.

I don’t know how long more I can keep this up.. It’s almost as if everyday, I’m living a lie. I feel like the person I fell in love with 9 months ago has suddenly disappeared. I miss the way you made me feel, the way your love filled me up inside and the truth is, I miss you.

You’re not the same, we’re not the same.

The signs were there, ever since our Orlando trip I know that things have been changing but I never knew that it would become so bad so quickly.

I probably seem like an asshole, but I respect you enough to tell you the truth of how I’m feeling. You try, but you don’t try hard enough.

And if you think that this is your best, then perhaps we weren’t as good together as we thought.

I’m a young girl, I am but only 18, I have my whole life ahead of me for settling with boring commitments but at this age, I shouldn’t have to feel lonely and empty and restricted and I should never have to settle for second best. Is it really too much to ask for?

Ending this entry here because all this jibberish ranting isn’t making me feel any better and there’s no point anyway.

He’s on a plane to see me right now, because I know that if we don’t work things out soon, everything will end here.. He’s landing in about 3 hours, which should give me enough time to study for my exam tomorrow.

Public Relations. Yuck.

And I thought my days couldn’t get much worse.

To complement my disgustingly emo post, here’s a beautiful song that I always wished didn’t relate to me so much.

Did I hear you right?
‘Cause I thought you said
Let’s think it over

You have been my life
And I never planned
Growing old without you

Shadows bleeding through the light
Where a love once shined so bright
Came without a reason

Don’t let go on us tonight
Love’s not always black and white
Haven’t I always loved you?

But when I need you
You’re almost here
And I know that’s
Not enough
But when I’m with you
I’m close to tears
‘Cause you’re only almost here

I would change the world
If I had a chance
Oh won’t you let me

Treat me like a child
Throw your arms around me
Please protect me

Bruised and battered by your words
Dazed and shattered how it hurts
Haven’t I always loved you

But when I need you
You’re almost here
And I know that’s
Not enough
But when I’m with you
I’m close to tears


‘Cause you’re only almost here.

xoxo,
Jess
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